Why taking time to “get over my anxiety” is nonsense or what I learned from my figure skating coach as a psychologist
While preparing for my second ice skating test I once had a nasty fall and a brain concussion. […] Telling my coach: “I don’t want to do this exercise today, I need more time to get over my anxiety” was my attempt to avoid the anxiety, to fight against it… … More Getting over my anxiety?
Hello Ukrainian Students in The Netherlands!
Are you an Ukrainian student in the Netherlands worrying so much about the current situation at home that you can no longer focus on your studies and feel that your life has been turned upside down? Critical situations… … More Hello Ukrainian Students in The Netherlands!
New Year’s letter
In this newsletter:
→ New therapy room in The Hague
→ Exploration course for couples who use substances
→ Photo of the month
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All I want for Christmas is to stop wanting to always be happy
So often I hear people saying that they should always be happy, always perform well, and so on, and this is something about the messages that we get from everywhere is our society. Sometimes substance abuse of any kind is a way of entering a bubble where these things seem to be all true. Or at least a bubble where … More Stop wanting to always be happy
My webshop is finally live! Check my calendar for Dry January!
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Next week is European Testing Week!
Are you unsure if you might have been exposed to Hep B/Hep C/HIV and feel uncomfortable discussing this with anyone you know? … More European Testing Week
Anxiety and excitement are like the tail and the nose of a skateboard
There is something exciting and fulfilling about pushing through your limits, being bold and finding an expression of what you feel in your body. It goes well if you can bring some calm into the madness with enough sanity. If you can take the signals of your anxiety seriously when you are about to … More Anxiety and excitement
What’s worse: a ‘gambling problem’ or a ‘cocaine addiction’?
Someone once said to me: “I’d rather have a cocaine addiction than this gambling problem, because you can’t physically use that much cocaine to make you go bankrupt”. My first impulse was to explain him that this is not a great deal either, and to tell him about heavy cocaine users I met who wished … More What’s worse
Painting with mirrors
For me therapy is often about holding a mirror in front of the client, a mirror which reflects an additional shade of their story inviting a rethink.
The story I hear, see and feel in front of me goes through the filters of my own perception and interpretation, sometimes through my own language skills, before coming back as a reflection to my client.
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Treatment on site in The Hague
The key ingredient to a positive experience in therapy is a harmonious relationship between client and practitioner. We are all different and some of us find that the relationship in online treatment is less dimensional.
After working exclusively online for a while, I am now also physically present in The Hague (Tuesdays)! … More Treatment on site in The Hague